So separate away the things that you don’t like and the things that you think (he) needs to come a long way on, but do NOT ever forsake the things that are already there. Also leave room for the things you would need to do to get the love that you so crave. In my crazy life I’ve screwed up MANY good things because I was a jackass and thought I knew what I wanted. Those things I defined so rigidly were the very things that caused love that I could have had forever, to fade away so rigidly (figure that one out). And yes the tactile love is gone, but I can continue to carry the torch of love’s past…..