…I think it’s healthy to want those things. I also think that it’s healthy to make sure we understand the other person’s definitions of what it is they want. People just don’t do that. They just automatically think the whole love thing is supposed to be automatic, but it just doesn’t work that way. We need to teach people what it is we want; then we can be sure if they are the ones for us. BUT at the same time we need to be flexible enough to realize that they might be bringing something more to us than we wanted in the first place

– Joe Tesoro, Jr., 2009