I’m not very proud to say that some changes in my life have come about long after they should have happened.  But in hindsight I can say that those changes took changes before they could have ever happened.  It took me changing the way I look at the world, people in general, and relationships.  In my life these days I’ve finally realized I’ll never again (either consciously or subconsciously) want someone to change without them wanting to.  I’ve learned that real men don’t try to change women… – JCT