I do think it’s important to get other perspectives of someone else and not just glue ourselves to our own. HOWEVER, I think it’s vitally important that the only perspective we believe on how a person is feeling is their own.  If someone says they love us, we should believe them; especially if they demonstrate that love. I think we should never discount someone’s own perspective on how they feel about us.  Sure, it’s up to us what we do with that perspective, but at least believe them if they are sincere… – JCT