Month: July 2011

How We Feel…

How we feel affects how we feel. When we get upset with someone and defend our position by saying “that’s how I feel”, I wonder if we understand how that prevents us from feeling any other way… –...

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Word Hoarding…

When it came to relationships (any kind really), I was like a word hoarder.  I spent too much time collecting the words that people said, as if the words alone were the real value. But really what all those words did was clutter up my mind and being.  I thought that everything they said was going to be valuable (in either a good or bad way) to me someday, and so I continued to collect. The flaw that I found in this is that instead of letting the words go, and instead of believing what someone’s truth was with their words, I convinced myself that words themselves — and the collection of them — was the real value in a relationship.  Word hoarding was a bad habit to get into.  The only true thing I’d like to collect, and give back, these days is love…...

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We Tend to Stay…

I learned something last night while talking to my dad.  He mentioned that when relationships end, we all tend to stay there.  This is a big breakthrough for me because I’ve realized that I do that, not only to me but to the relationship. I tend to stay there in my head and heart, as it ended, instead of realize what a gift it was to have in the first place. This is a sad truth about how we tend to stay stuck on what used to be and how we/others used to behave.  I’ve realized that it’s just not right to see people as they were — we really should see them as they are and as they’ve changed. Living your life by staying in how something ending is not a very respectful way to treat others and yourself — especially if we intend on growing – JCT (thanks, dad, for the...

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